Guest Post: Arlene from Starrtrekking

I’m so excited to welcome a very special guest blogger today, the lovely Arlene from Starrtrekking!

hello Arlene

I went to school with this gorgeous soul. She’s a mum, aspiring writer (damn can this gal write!), glitter technician, and middle aged emo with an impulsive streak that manifests in terrible home ‘improvements’ and crazy haircuts. Her blog, Starrtrekking is her life and adventures with her beautiful family in coastal country South Australia, where she writes with beautiful honestly about being a mum to a child on the spectrum, among other topics. Always with a dose of her signature humour.

I’m so happy she agreed to be my guest during Autism Awareness Month to share some very important tips for us all.

Over to you Arlene…

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April is autism awareness month and as I am the mother of a child on the spectrum, apparently it has become my duty to inform and educate the world on an annual basis. It’s part of some invisible contract us ASD families are bound to; in the fine print that none of us read but are required to fulfil nonetheless.

Arlene's son Nate with his beloved Lucy

Arlene’s son Nate with his beloved Lucy

With the numbers climbing and now an estimated 1 in 100 of our kids having autism the chances are that you know someone who has it. When my son was diagnosed it was kind of obvious that nobody knew what to say or do so they’d ask what I needed. Articulating the help I desperately needed at that point in time was impossible. What I needed was for someone to show up and do what had to be done without asking. This year to fulfil my annual duty I’ve decided to compile a list for the friends and family out there and hopefully make someone else’s transition to this new way of life just a little bit easier.

  • When we tell you that our child has autism don’t go denying it. We’ve been through months, sometimes years of seeing doctors, speech therapists and paediatricians. The diagnosis is real. Similarly don’t say, ‘I knew there was something wrong with him.’ The only right thing to say is, ‘Are you okay?’ Followed closely by, ‘I’ll get the wine.’
  • Don’t stop visiting and calling. The chances are pretty good that you’re going to walk in on a meltdown and the house is a mess. You may not even hear them on the other end of the phone or they’ll cut you short to tend to an emergency. But don’t stop calling or visiting. Autism isolates the entire family and not just in the early years after diagnosis. Lost friendships are felt for years to come.
  • Offer to take the kids to give them a break. If you think you can’t deal with their little one screaming or rocking and flapping for a couple of hours while they rest/socialise/repair their house (or dare I say it, have sexy time) then imagine how they feel living with autism 24 hours a day. Suck it up and give them a little break. Nothing will be more appreciated.
  • Make a casserole. Not just a sympathy casserole directly after diagnosis. Every now and then if you’ve made too much pop something in a container and bring it around. Some nights we were so busy dealing with behaviour that tea time was a nightmare.
  • If all your friend or relative can talk about is autism it’s likely they’re working some shit out. A good friend will listen to that and not judge you even when you break down into ugly cry. Get the kettle on and settle in for a therapy session. Even better, drag out the wine.
  • Talk to their child. Just because they aren’t talking to you doesn’t mean they don’t know you’re there. Bend down, say hello and ask them how they are. Talk directly about what they’re currently doing. ‘Flicking the light switch on and off hey? Looks like unsafe fun! Let me have a go.’ They may or may not respond. It doesn’t matter. You’ve interacted and all those interactions add up so that one day when that child reacts, says hello, passes you a toy, it’ll be like all the fireworks in all the lands have been lit and your world will never be so fucking joyous. For both you and the parents. Promise.
  • If you really want your friends or family to attend your function then think about the location. If it’s not fenced the chances are they aren’t going to be able to go. Even if it is “family friendly” keep in mind that this means that neurotypical kids are safe in the surrounds. Not necessarily our little adventurers. So if they say they can’t come because it’s unsafe it isn’t an excuse. Don’t take it personally. The chances are they are gutted they are missing out.
  • Please don’t feel that the friendship is one sided. One day everyone gets into a rhythm and life becomes a new kind of normal. Now I have more time for friendships and a little more freedom for social outings but the invites have stopped. Don’t ever stop, even if it takes years, which it really did for us.

This list is inexhaustible and of course each family needs different things. I need more wine and song, others coffee and a nap. Remember that your friend is still there, they’re just going through something and all that stuff they liked to do with you before they’d love to do again. Try to make it happen. They’ll adore you forever.

Flappy World Autism Awareness Month to everyone.

Arlene
xox

Thank you lovely lady for sharing your tips, I’ve certainly learned something and I’m sure many others will too.

I only wish I lived closer so I could pop over with a casserole and bottle of wine. xx

You can find Arlene at Starrtrekking. Pop on over and say hi!

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Love Want Need 7: Krissy from Pretty Wee Things

Its been a while since my last ‘Love Want Need’ post, so I thought we would mix things up a little and share the love, so the gorgeous Krissy from Pretty Wee Things blog joins us today sharing her latest finds. And I think you’ll agree… this gal has exquisite taste!

Welcome Krissy!

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It’s no secret that I am a little obsessed with Shannon’s Love Want Need posts, so thank you for letting me share my love want need list today!

I have absolutely fallen in love with dusty pink, and with Autumn now here, there are some incredible pieces I have my eye on.
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1. Ted Baker Zip Front Cape Coat (in Taupe)

This coat is incredible!  I love the idea of a cape for Winter and Ted Baker has the most incredible collection.  Surprisingly, this coat won’t break the bank too much either, coming in at around $380.  An investment piece for sure.

2. Nars Blush in Orgasim ($38)

If you are yet to hear of the infamous Nars Orgasim then here you go.  Such a classic blush for Autumn, and it suits nearly every skin tone.

3. M.N.G Cross strap sandals ($90)

I recently purchased similar sandals for work.  I love that they have a sturdy heal and enough straps to keep you secure, but still look elegant.  These would look perfect with cropped work pants or a knee length a-line skirt.

4. Oroton Silhouette clutch wallet ($225)

Credit where credit is due, Oroton have beautiful wallets!  After losing mine to the road last week I am in the market for a new one, and I love this little wallet clutch.

5. Paper and Stitch Blog

I know we all love a good blog.  Every time I look at Paper and Stitch I just feel happy. Beautiful photos, fresh and beautiful food, and just pure happiness.

6. Forever New Lara Slim Crop Pants ($80)

I was pointing these pants out to my friend this week, discussing whether I would be able to pull them off.  I love love love them, but I have a feeling they will need the perfect nude heel and fresh while top to keep it looking modern and not grandma.

I hope that you enjoyed this Love Want Need post. Until next time. Krissy xxx

Thanks Krissy! Always a pleasure to have you pop in!

You can catch Krissy at Pretty Wee Things or on facebook and instagram.

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Guest Post: Astrid from Adore Re Mi

Hello Hello,

Happy New Year! A bit late I know…  but I hope the start to your 2015 has been fabulous. I have a good feeling about this year already!

I had a great Chrissy and New Years here at home in Sydney and are completely sold on The Staycation! {more to come on that in the way of a blog post}. But for now, I thought I’d kick start the year with a guest post and introduce you to the lovely Astrid from Adore Re Mi.

I met Astrid last year during Clever Cookie School Of Blog. Soon after we met IRL {that’s in real life in blog speak} and have continued to inspire each other in blog land. She’s super lovely, a happy snapper, Tim Tam cruncher, music lover, creative maker and Latina mother from down under.

Her blog is full of visual and creative ideas to inspire you via home and the heart. And of course music! Her Flashback Friday‘s posts are my faves!

Because she’s so awesome, Astrid will be featured here from time to time, so let’s get to know her a little better.

Astrid from Adore Re Mi

1) What inspires you to blog?

As mums we easily lose our identity with the little time we have for ourselves. I wanted to keep my creativity going and with the birth of my daughter, I didn’t want to lose that part of me cause I would go ’loco’.

These days there is so much to learn about blogging and I enjoy it while being creative and meeting new bloggers along the way has been great!

2) Greatest Achievement?

(Chest puffed out) Besides being a mum; winning a painting competition run by Red Cross when I was 12 years old. Even got a feature in the local newspaper, that’s huge when your 12! Laughing now.

3) Favourite post by another blogger?

Shocking reaction to toddler on leash – The Thud

This post was aired on radio ABC 702. Fascinating to hear what Lauren had to say and the feedback on her post. Also she is damn funny!

4) Favourite holiday?

I love Hawaii! I’ve been 3 times and I will go back again. Love the culture, shopping and cocktails!

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Astrid's Hawaii Photo

5) What would you tell your 16 year old self?

Stop worrying about what others think of you. Let’s deal with your social anxiety; and learn computer and business or graphic design, you will thank me later.

6) Where do you see yourself in 10 years time?

Finally living in our own home with lots of posts on renovation and refurbishment and most importantly, watching my kids play with the family dog in our backyard.

Astrid's Super Cute Baby Announcement

Astrid’s Super Cute Baby Announcement

7) Describe your style in a few words.

My style depends on my mood. It’s edgy, minimalist, relaxed and even experimental (or schizophrenic?)

8) Favourite album?

Rumours by Fleetwood Mac. I saw them live in concert and they are still incrediable.

9) Finish this sentence. This year…

… will be an exciting year introducing my 4 year old to her new baby brother/sister this April and her new cousin late January! 2015 will be a family year for me and my friends. I’m super excited!

Thanks Astrid for visiting! I can’t wait to share more from you soon!

Pop over and see Astrid at Adore Re Mi and follower her on Facebook

Shannon xx pink

 

Guest Post – Meet Krissy from Pretty Wee Things Blog

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As I’ve mentioned a few times now… the thing I’m loving the most about this whole new bloggy world is the amazing networks and connections. So to celebrate these new connections, I’m super excited to welcome the gorgeous Krissy from Pretty Wee Things as my very first guest blogger @my2morrows.

I met Krissy recently during the Clever Cookie School of Blog course and absolutely love what she’s all about so wanted to introduce her to you.

Krissy is mummy to one busy little man, newlywed wife to one pretty cool guy, and lover of all things health, fashion and beauty. She’s completed Bachelor of Science with honours in Psychology, a few post-grad certificates, and a certificate in Makeup Artistry. How’s that for an interesting combination!

She’s into researching health, fitness and wellness and loves playing with her little man, being a wifey, shopping and drinking coffee. And she’s just tied the knot in stunning New Zealand. OMG, you must check out the stunning pics. Her dress is to die for!

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Krissy will be featured here regularly from time so let’s get to know her a little better…

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Inspiration behind your blog:  I write to share what being a fashion-loving, health and wellness conscious mum means to me, and to share how I (try to) make it all work, because I find it interesting and inspiring to have a peak into other people’s lives.  Oh, and also to stay sane…when covered in drool, sleep deprived and unable to leave the home due to this week’s child-related-illness.

Tea or Coffee: COFFFEEEE!  There is a definite coffee theme on my blog!

Heels or flats: Heels (The mum side says flats)

On your bedside table: Water bottle, Treasure Yourself and Empower Yourself by Miranda Kerr, Candles, Elizabeth Arden 8 hour cream, lip balm, and a baby monitor.

Every mum needs: Coffee, and a video baby monitor…those things are the best!

Fave perfume: Gucci Rush (the original red)

Fave song/album: Holding you by Stan Walker and Ginny Blackmore (my walking down isle song!!!)

Fave drink: Almond milk latte

Fave TV show: Keeping up with the Kardashians (sorry)

Fave Quote: “My life is too short not to do what I love” – Robert Holden

Describe your style: Feminine, polished, simple

Most treasured possession: If my son could be a possession, then him.  But probably my rings.  Each has their own special meanings.

Favourite shop: That’s a tricky one.  Probably Forever New.

Favourite Flower: I’m allergic!!!

Fave holiday destination: Bali (Seminyak)

Fave book: Anything by Marian Keyes

Can’t live without: My water bottle. That thing follows me everywhere!!!  Oh, and coffee (of course)

XOX Pretty Wee Things

Thanks Krissy for visiting! I can’t wait to share more from you soon!

Pop over and see Krissy at Pretty Wee Things and follower her on facebook