The Link List 4

The Link List

Hello Hello,

Its Fri-yay! I hope you have had a great week! How are those of you with kids on school holidays coping? Ready to send them back yet?!

I’ve had a pretty good week. Very excited as behind the scenes, Brooke from The Lover Lab has been giving my little blog a bit of a make over and it’s close to being complete. I can’t wait to share it with you.

Carly & Christina

I’m also super excited to be off to the Little Blog Big workshop tomorrow, run by the uber talented Carly from Smaggle and Christina from Hair Romance. (pictured left) Cant wait to meet them both, learn as much as I can and see some of my awesome Bloggy friends. (photo source)

In the meantime, here’s some gold I’ve stumbled upon this week…

If you love reading blogs as much as I do, Fleur from Our Urban Box wrote a cracker of a post on how to support your favourite bloggers. We really do love a bit of comment love!

Speaking of bloggers, two of the my faves, Emma Kate Co and Jacklyn from Blog Society have teamed up in a collective celebration of self care during April, offering a free printable each week. Come and join the celebration… frame them, pop them on your vision board and share on social media tagging #bloglovefest and don’t forget to take some time out for just YOU!

I shared these Shedquarters the other day on the facebook page, then I saw these She-Sheds  and she-sheds-12OMG!! I now want to turn the kids cubby house into a She-Shed. Surely they wouldn’t mind?! #3 is my fave (pictured). Which do you like?

You know how much I love an Ikea hack, check out these ones for nursery’s. I adore #8!

The lovely Arlene from Starrtrekking joined me on my2morrows with this guest post during Autism Awareness Week, sharing some honest tips on how best to support families affected by Autism. With 1 in 100 of our kids having Autism, chances are you know someone who would greatly appreciate a casserole and some wine!

And on the work/career front, this article about The Motherhood Penalty raises the question… how are we meant to ‘lean in’ anyway?

Enjoy the links and have a wonderful week end!

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As you head into the week end, how are you taking some time for you?

Has the Motherhood Penalty affected you?

How would you theme your She-Shed?

 

 

 

 

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Guest Post: Arlene from Starrtrekking

I’m so excited to welcome a very special guest blogger today, the lovely Arlene from Starrtrekking!

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I went to school with this gorgeous soul. She’s a mum, aspiring writer (damn can this gal write!), glitter technician, and middle aged emo with an impulsive streak that manifests in terrible home ‘improvements’ and crazy haircuts. Her blog, Starrtrekking is her life and adventures with her beautiful family in coastal country South Australia, where she writes with beautiful honestly about being a mum to a child on the spectrum, among other topics. Always with a dose of her signature humour.

I’m so happy she agreed to be my guest during Autism Awareness Month to share some very important tips for us all.

Over to you Arlene…

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April is autism awareness month and as I am the mother of a child on the spectrum, apparently it has become my duty to inform and educate the world on an annual basis. It’s part of some invisible contract us ASD families are bound to; in the fine print that none of us read but are required to fulfil nonetheless.

Arlene's son Nate with his beloved Lucy

Arlene’s son Nate with his beloved Lucy

With the numbers climbing and now an estimated 1 in 100 of our kids having autism the chances are that you know someone who has it. When my son was diagnosed it was kind of obvious that nobody knew what to say or do so they’d ask what I needed. Articulating the help I desperately needed at that point in time was impossible. What I needed was for someone to show up and do what had to be done without asking. This year to fulfil my annual duty I’ve decided to compile a list for the friends and family out there and hopefully make someone else’s transition to this new way of life just a little bit easier.

  • When we tell you that our child has autism don’t go denying it. We’ve been through months, sometimes years of seeing doctors, speech therapists and paediatricians. The diagnosis is real. Similarly don’t say, ‘I knew there was something wrong with him.’ The only right thing to say is, ‘Are you okay?’ Followed closely by, ‘I’ll get the wine.’
  • Don’t stop visiting and calling. The chances are pretty good that you’re going to walk in on a meltdown and the house is a mess. You may not even hear them on the other end of the phone or they’ll cut you short to tend to an emergency. But don’t stop calling or visiting. Autism isolates the entire family and not just in the early years after diagnosis. Lost friendships are felt for years to come.
  • Offer to take the kids to give them a break. If you think you can’t deal with their little one screaming or rocking and flapping for a couple of hours while they rest/socialise/repair their house (or dare I say it, have sexy time) then imagine how they feel living with autism 24 hours a day. Suck it up and give them a little break. Nothing will be more appreciated.
  • Make a casserole. Not just a sympathy casserole directly after diagnosis. Every now and then if you’ve made too much pop something in a container and bring it around. Some nights we were so busy dealing with behaviour that tea time was a nightmare.
  • If all your friend or relative can talk about is autism it’s likely they’re working some shit out. A good friend will listen to that and not judge you even when you break down into ugly cry. Get the kettle on and settle in for a therapy session. Even better, drag out the wine.
  • Talk to their child. Just because they aren’t talking to you doesn’t mean they don’t know you’re there. Bend down, say hello and ask them how they are. Talk directly about what they’re currently doing. ‘Flicking the light switch on and off hey? Looks like unsafe fun! Let me have a go.’ They may or may not respond. It doesn’t matter. You’ve interacted and all those interactions add up so that one day when that child reacts, says hello, passes you a toy, it’ll be like all the fireworks in all the lands have been lit and your world will never be so fucking joyous. For both you and the parents. Promise.
  • If you really want your friends or family to attend your function then think about the location. If it’s not fenced the chances are they aren’t going to be able to go. Even if it is “family friendly” keep in mind that this means that neurotypical kids are safe in the surrounds. Not necessarily our little adventurers. So if they say they can’t come because it’s unsafe it isn’t an excuse. Don’t take it personally. The chances are they are gutted they are missing out.
  • Please don’t feel that the friendship is one sided. One day everyone gets into a rhythm and life becomes a new kind of normal. Now I have more time for friendships and a little more freedom for social outings but the invites have stopped. Don’t ever stop, even if it takes years, which it really did for us.

This list is inexhaustible and of course each family needs different things. I need more wine and song, others coffee and a nap. Remember that your friend is still there, they’re just going through something and all that stuff they liked to do with you before they’d love to do again. Try to make it happen. They’ll adore you forever.

Flappy World Autism Awareness Month to everyone.

Arlene
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Thank you lovely lady for sharing your tips, I’ve certainly learned something and I’m sure many others will too.

I only wish I lived closer so I could pop over with a casserole and bottle of wine. xx

You can find Arlene at Starrtrekking. Pop on over and say hi!

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Liebster Blog Award

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The thing I’m loving the most about this whole bloggy thing is the amazing community. It’s completely blown me away actually. I’m loving the conversations, the recipes I’m discovering, and simply, how inspired I am through the connections I’ve made.

I’ve been a blog lover and reader for a long time but have only recently found the courage to actually become a blogger myself (It still feels weird even calling myself that!) So I was pretty excited to be nominated for a Liebster Blog Award from the lovely Fleur at Our Urban Box. Thanks Fleur!

The Liebster Blog Award is given to bloggers, by fellow bloggers as a way of recognising your blog and a way to connect and discover other fabulous blogs out there.

A few rules that come with the nomination are:

  1. Link back and recognise the blogger who nominated you.
  2. Answer ten questions given by the nominator.
  3. Nominate ten other bloggers for the award.
  4.  Create ten questions for nominees to answer.
  5. Notify your nominees.
  6. Get an award button and display it proudly.

So here’s the questions Fleur set for me:

1. What was the last book you read? Thrive by Arianna Huffington

2. Do you have any holiday plans coming up? 3 weeks off over Chrissy/New year and very much looking forward to a Staycation, being a tourist in our own city

3. If you could choose any era to live in, what would it be? 60’s… Flower Child!

4. What is your drink of choice? Tea. I love the ritual of a pot of freshly boiled tea!Black, green, herbal, rooibos… You name it!

5. Autumn or Spring? Both are amazing in Sydney but I’d have to choose Spring. New beginnings and all that!

6. What is one thing on your want list at the moment? Oh there’s always a few as you’ll see from my ‘Love Want Need’ posts. But if I had to pick one thing at the moment it would be a Roundie from The beach people.

7. What is the best thing that happened to you this week? I had a birthday and got to spend it with my2morrows!

8. If you had the chance to go see any band or performer (alive or dead) who would it be? MJ

9. Favourite chocolate bar? Chokito

10. If you had to give yourself a new name, what would you pick? Oh great question Fleur! If it was asked in the 80’s I totally would have said ‘Tiffany’ but hmm, now I’d go with India or Willow I think!

I now nominate these amazing bloggers. Be sure to click and check them out!

Krissy from Pretty Wee Things

Astrid from Adore Re Me

Mrs Bouw from Tied with a Bouw

Lisa from The Art Of Joy

Arlene from Starrtrekking

Abby from Two Janes

Heidi from Confessions of  a Celebrity Spray Tanner

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Gabbi from My Kind Of Chaos

Lisa from Single Mum With Swagger

Kristy from LouLouZoo

And here are your questions:

  1. Inspiration behind your blog?
  2. On your bedside table?
  3. Fave song/album?
  4. Fave Drink?
  5. What were you doing a decade ago?
  6. Fave quote?
  7. Describe your style?
  8. Most treasured possession?
  9. Favourite holiday destination?
  10. What is one random thing that most people don’t know about you?

Can’t wait to read your answers!

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