The Circle of Life, Part 1: Scotty

I’ve never been one to wish time away. I try to always live in the present moment, but I have to say… I’m actually looking forward to 2014 being over.
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The year started out full of promise as most years do…  Fireworks, sparklers… a few champas with dear friends… happy kids running around with glow sticks. But it will be forever marred by 2 heartbreaking losses and with that, a reminder about what’s most important in life.
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Told in 2 parts, here’s part 1…

The Circle Of Life, Part 1: Scotty

Earlier this year we headed overseas for our long awaited family holiday to Hawaii, with a stopover in Fiji on the way home for our friends’ wedding. Precious holiday time in two of our favourite destinations, we were pumped!

Our three hour stop over en route to Honolulu turned into 6+ hours. That’s 6 hours in a confined space with two bat shit crazy kids aged four and under. Holidays with kids are fun right! This also meant we arrived in Honolulu at 3am. Damn those cheap flights!
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But all good… We may have been jet lagged as hell, smelling like vomit thanks to discovering our son suffers from air sickness, but Aloha… we were in freakin Hawaii! Nothing a hot shower and a good nights sleep in a fluffy white hotel bed wouldn’t fix.
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It took a couple of days to settle into holiday mode, then on day three we received a call from home, C’s brother had tragically died, aged 42.
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Scotty was disabled from a brain injury at birth. He was having a picnic in the park with his carers and house mates when he choked on his lunch and went into cardiac arrest. He didn’t make it to hospital.
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C’s parents insisted we stay on holidays and said they would be having a private burial with just the two of them. So we stayed, trying to enjoy our holiday as much as possible given the circumstances.
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We had just started visiting Scott more regularly earlier this year. We wanted the kids to get to know him and teach them about how their Uncle was ‘different’.
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The children at Miss 5’s preschool were so interested to hear about how uncle Scott “can’t talk and walks funny” that it spurred a whole topic for the next couple of weeks on disabilities. They had a visit from someone in a wheel chair and the kids learnt all about diversity and acceptance. It was lovely to know that a whole class of pre-school kids were learning all about this because of our Scott.
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For us in Hawaii, the days went on and it didn’t really hit us until we arrived on home soil and saw C’s devastated family. We still haven’t told the kids uncle Scott is gone, but will tell them when they are a little older and understand death a little better.
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We are grateful they got to meet him and we will always talk to them about him. About his boundless energy, how he loved strawberry milkshakes, walks by the sea, a swing in the playground, and doors. He loved doors. Opening them, closing them and listening to their hinges squeak.
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He taught us all so much and we will all miss our sweet energetic Scotty.
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A month or so after Scotty died, C’s older brother and his wife told us they were expecting a baby boy and we now have a gorgeous new Nephew.
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To be continued…
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11 thoughts on “The Circle of Life, Part 1: Scotty

  1. What a shock that must have been, hearing such dreadful news in paradise. I am grateful every day that we get to share our lives with the Scottys of this world. I hope your family has come to terms with your great loss. x

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